Archive for January, 2009

36 Reasons

My beautiful wife had a birthday on Friday. I made her a little card telling her all the things I love about her – one for each year of her age. I’ve recorded it here for posterity (and also to brag about how great she is!)

  1. How you’re such a cookie monster
  2. The way you make tea
  3. The way you mommy
  4. Your soft skin
  5. Your pretty eyes
  6. Your silky brown hair
  7. Your beautiful hands
  8. The way you look when you sleep
  9. Your perfect feet
  10. How you make our house a home
  11. The way you tease me
  12. Your love of learning
  13. Your passion for educating our kids
  14. How you listen to my stories
  15. Your blog
  16. The way you dance with me
  17. Your love of books
  18. Your compassionate heart
  19. Your past
  20. How you’ve changed over the years
  21. Your style sense
  22. Your ability to dominate in Nertz
  23. Your sense of humor
  24. Your love of simpler times
  25. How you love your bath time
  26. Your kickboxing prowess
  27. How you love reading to the kids
  28. How you share the CNS with me
  29. Your efficiency
  30. Your constant support and encouragement
  31. How you think I’m smarter than I really am
  32. The way you laugh
  33. How you’ve taught me to appreciate history and literature
  34. How you are always so diligent
  35. The Kermit smile
  36. The way you love me

If you know Cori, then you know that she is refuting all these things. She never gives herself enough credit – and that’s one more thing I love about her. I’ll add that to next year’s list. :)

The Wisdom of Yoda

This morning I was disciplining Chloe because she was not acting very kind, shall we say. I was explaining to her that the reason why she was acting like this, which was not her normal self, was because she was being selfish and only thinking about what she wanted.

So in walks Bennett with his 2¢. He said, “Chloe, remember what Yoda says: ‘Selfishness leads to fear; fear leads to hate; hate leads to fate; fate leads to anger; and anger leads to death.’ Remember that from the movie, Chloe?”

So I said, “Bennett, please leave – I’m talking to Chloe.”

I don’t think Yoda phrased it exactly like that, but I think Bennett got the jist of the idea. The way he said it was so “father-figure”, it was funny. He really thought he was helping her by imparting his advice like that.

Silly kid. :)

Gavin

I fell in love 10 years ago today. That was the day Gavin was born. That was one of my best days!

Soon after he was born, stabilized and spent some time cuddling with Mommy, the nurses took him to the nursery to give him a bath, take measurements and perform some minor tests. I got to go with while Cori rested.

For as long as I live, I’ll never forget the time he and I shared in the nursery. I got to be right there with him, studying his every feature, watching his every move. I kissed his cheeks and his little hands and feet and tummy. I touched his soft skin and talked to him the whole time. He was so small, but perfect in every way. It must have been close to two hours that we spent together and I treasure every minute of it. It was our bonding time.

Since then, I’ve had about a million more times of bonding. And I’ve loved every minute of those times as well.

As a toddler, he went everywhere I went. He was the epitome of Daddy’s Little Helper. He insisted on helping me do whatever I was doing. Fixing the vacuum, mowing the lawn, clipping the hedges, washing the car – it didn’t matter what it was, he was right there. I loved it too. I never considered him in my way.

I think the best part of all that is just having time together. That’s how relationships develop. That’s how you bond with someone – by spending time together. Doing every day things together.

It seems that Gavin understood that as a child – he just wanted to be with me, whatever I was doing. I’m so glad he did. And I’m glad I let him and didn’t consider him to be a nuisance, because I’d have missed out on that time together.

He’s still that way, too. Loves to help. We still spend lots of time together. Almost every night after Bennett goes to bed, he still has 30 minutes before his bed time and he asks, “So Dad, what do you want to do with me?” I love it! :) When he says that as a 10-year old, I’ll still look at him and see that little guy next to my side asking, “Daddy, what I do help you for?”

So obviously, I’ve completely enjoyed the past 10 years. Its been by far the best decade of my life. I really cannot believe its been 10 years since Gavin was born. It has gone by so fast. And that’s what makes me a bit sad. Because I know the next 10 years are also going to go by fast, maybe even faster. By then, he’ll be an adult, in college or working or who knows what, but most likely not living at home any longer. I try not to think of that time, because I know we have 10 (maybe less) more years with him before he goes off on his own as adult.

I plan on making those years count, just as much as the past ten. I’ll be spending as much time with my little helper as I always have. We have a lot more to do – teaching, learning and helping each other.

Happy Birthday, Gavin. I’m thankful you are my son, my little friend. I love you with all my heart!

Where Bubbles Go

Last evening I was working on a freelance project at my desk in our bedroom. Chloe was taking a bubble bath in our bathroom downstairs. The tub is about 20 feet from my desk, so I could work while keeping an eye on her – and answer her 2,489 questions that she felt were more important than what I was doing.

After being in the tub about 20 minutes or so, she realized that all the bubbles were starting to disappear and asked if she could have more. So I turned the water back on and put in some more bubble bath liquid. She asked what happened to the bubbles and I just said, “Well, after awhile, they just go away.”

She must have felt I was trying to keep the real truth from her. She asked, in a completely serious tone, “Where do they go? Do they go in my butt?”

So I tried to explain to her that that is indeed not where they go – all the while keeping a straight face. The things kids think of! I love how their minds work. :)

How I Manage My LinkedIn Network

The other day I received an invitation to join someone’s LinkedIn network. This was a person I worked with at a previous company a few years back. I declined the invitation because I didn’t really know the guy. He worked in a different department and I don’t even recall a one-on-one conversation we ever had. Read the rest of this entry →